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Dr. Toni Galardi
Dear Dr. Toni:
My birthday is August 24, 1956. I have been a struggling artist for twenty - five years, first as an actor and then as a writer. I come from a family of professionals. I myself have a law degree. I really want to have a breakthrough in my writing career. I get a few jobs and then I go for long bouts without work. Acting was the same way. I would be just on the verge of breaking through and getting a series and then it would dissolve. How do I change my luck, Dr. Toni?
A Frustrated Virgo
Dear Frustrated:
Luck is an interesting word. I would say it is a four letter word in the sense of it being a curse word. Don’t use the word luck, either bad or good. The true nature of luck is karma. The true nature of karma consists of unconscious beliefs that we have acted out lifetime after lifetime. The good news is that karma can be changed with vigilant consciousness. Ask yourself, what is your relationship with money? What does power mean to you and how comfortable are you in claiming it in your professional life? Virgos are big on being in service but sometimes have ambivalent feelings about amassing money, like it makes the Virgin (its astrological symbol) feel impure or something so they often put other people’s needs first. Look at your beliefs about success and what it means. Visualize yourself becoming published and making a lot of money from your work. Now, how does that feel in your body? If there is discomfort or constriction in some part, place your hands over that area and direct love into it in the same way you would do if you were using your hands to touch a loved one or pet. Now, visualize yourself as having huge success again. If there is unmitigated joy, you have cleared it. If not, ask your body to give you a symbol as to what is in the way. Keep working on your beliefs my Virgo friend and your karma will change!
Dear Dr. Toni:
I am constantly attracting guys who won’t commit. They come on strong, but then once I am really interested, they start distancing themselves from me. I would really like to settle down and stop dating, but I don’t seem to meet guys who want what I want. My birth date is 6/24/72.
A Crabby Crab
Dear Crabby:
We are magnets attracting other magnets based on our unconscious and conscious beliefs. Examine your belief systems about men. Then ask yourself how you really feel about a committed relationship. I suspect you are ambivalent. What is your take on your parents’ marriage? What unconscious decisions might you have made about marriage based on what you saw there? Once you have examined these questions, ask yourself, “What are my ‘must haves’ in a relationship?” Then look at your list and prioritize the top five. When you meet the next guy, don’t sleep with him until you know for sure he contains all five on the list. If you do this, you will be sending a message to your unconscious that you are really serious about getting what you say you want.
Good luck, my dear.
Dear Dr. Toni:
My husband lost his job and has been drinking heavily. He went into a rage and tried to strangle me. I left our home with our two children and am staying with a friend. People have advised me to not go back but I know what a good husband and father he is when he is not drinking. What do you suggest? I am a Pisces and he is an Aries.
A Fish Out Of Water
Dear Pisces:
For starters, I would insist he go to Alcoholics Anonymous’ 90 meetings in 90 days.
If he doesn’t keep that commitment, tell him you will leave with the children. Secondly, I suggest you get couples counseling. If your resources are limited, there are clinics that serve a sliding scale population. If this happens again, you must take pictures of your injuries and report it to the police so documentation can be established and leave him. The finest of men while intoxicated can do impulsive things that end in tragedy. You owe it to your children to set appropriate boundaries as to what you will accept. Don’t leave them orphans because you allowed yourself to be treated in a fashion unworthy of you. If you Google “spousal abuse” for your city you will be given resources to assist you.
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