LifeQuake™
Ask the LifeQuake™ Doctor
Dr. Toni Galardi
Dear Dr. Toni:
I am a 65-year-old woman who has a passion for teaching foreign languages but no one will give me a job. I moved 3,000 miles away to care for my dying daughter and since her death seven years ago, everything has gone wrong for me. I go on countless interviews, but to no avail. I hate where I live and am barely making ends meet. I am ready to give up. I have completely lost faith in myself.
Can you help?
Hopeless
Dear Hopeless:
My heart goes out to you on the passing of your daughter. Losing a child is probably the most devastating thing that can happen to an individual. Having said that, I would encourage you to do some grief counseling if you can and release all this pain. Perhaps you are not getting a job because you are not meant to express your gift as a teacher in a formal academic setting.
There are plenty of students outside the classroom who struggle with learning a foreign language and parents today get a tutor for everything. You might consider going on craigslist.org and posting an ad. Also, there are many private language institutes that could use retired teachers. What is most important to manifesting your desire is to visualize yourself teaching with all that passion every day. Create an affirmation such as, “I am now teaching in the perfect environment where my skills are effortlessly supported and well remunerated.” Speak it out loud everyday.
Good luck and don’t give up. A change is just around the corner if you keep the fire of your passion burning in your heart.
Dear Dr. Toni:
I have been in a lawsuit for four years now with a man that my boyfriend and I bought a business from. $500,000 later, the judge ruled in favor of the defendant. This has put a great strain on my relationship with my boyfriend. It was his idea to buy this business and I am the one who has had to fund most of the legal fees. I am having trouble forgiving him for his poor judge of character and he is angry at me for not working much to salvage the business.
Do you have any suggestions as to what we can do? I am desperate.
Kathy
Dear Kathy:
I would like to suggest that you ask yourself a few questions. What made you fall in love with your boyfriend? What do you admire and respect about him now? What do you love about him? What is the pay off for you in not forgiving him? Why did this lesson come into your life? In processing these questions, if you find that you are ready to forgive him and move on with the relationship, then do a ceremony with a copy of the final verdict or judgment and burn it. Set an intention that you are releasing this invaluable lesson and then ask the part of you that is already healed (your full-potential self) to assist you in moving toward the future with wisdom that you could only have gained through this experience.